Disclaimer: This is sensitive information for you if you are an expecting Mother
Life can be a mix of happiness and heartbreak, and today, I want to talk about something that's often kept quiet – the tough journey of losing a pregnancy. It's not just about the physical hurt; it's about the feelings that can make you feel alone. Let's understand how important it is to talk, especially for those going through this tough time.
Last September, a close friend of mine Sarah, a 37-year-old working woman, went through the tough experience of losing a pregnancy at 15 weeks. The pain didn't stop with her body healing; there was a whole storm of feelings going on inside her.
Feeling Sad and Blaming Yourself:
When a pregnancy doesn't work out, it's tough emotionally. Sarah found herself feeling sad, thinking she had done something wrong. She questioned her worth as if the miscarriage was her fault.
The Quiet Cry:
One thing that stood out in Sarah's story was the silent cry she had inside. It was hard for her to talk about the pain she felt, and that made her feel trapped. She just wished someone could understand what she was going through.
Why Talking Matters:
When things get tough, talking to someone you trust can make a huge difference. Sadly, for Sarah, talking became hard. Even though her husband wanted to help, he didn't quite get what she was feeling. Instead of being calm and understanding, he pointed out things she wasn't doing like before – at work, at home, in life. She could not even show her anger or tears because she had to keep making herself look brave all the time. So was broken from the inside and was shouting on top of her voice in her mind to express her pain her loss and the changes in her body and mind. Her Husband made her feel miserable as if she was the problem for everything, he was so self-centred that he could not even feel the noise of her silence. She was no longer laughing like before. She was only pretending to be happy and keep herself busy to distance herself from him. It was so obvious that when he was the one struggling with no one believing in him Sarah was the one who left everything behind to support him. Her career was about to leap in 2016 when she was working with a top MNC in the country and she was offered a position to travel to Australia for 6 months to train and get back to a higher position. But at the same time, her husband wanted to desperately move abroad to fulfil his dreams so Sarah kept quiet and supported him. Now he is in a good position but he always looks down upon Sarah. Making her feel like a failure in life in her career and everywhere.
What Happened Next:
As time passed, Sarah felt more and more overwhelmed. Not being able to share her fears and feeling like she was failing became too much. To make things worse, her husband unintentionally made things harder by pushing her when she needed support. Eventually, she felt she couldn't go on and left a note saying she was a failure.
The Takeaway:
Sarah's story reminds us that love alone might not be enough. It's the simple act of talking and sharing our feelings without judgment that can help. Our minds and bodies might struggle with tough times, but having someone to talk to can be a guiding light in the darkness.